10 Second Personality Test When Approaching Women

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 3/9/09

Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx

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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of the popular book “Dating To Relating – From A To Z”. Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com and it may be selected for answer in this column. (Sorry all questions cannot be answered.)

Question: How do I learn about her fast (just by approaching her) before I talk to her?

Answer: Well I have a whole chapter devoted to this in my book “Dating To Relating – From A To Z” and an article on my website called “Feet, Personality Theory and Dating and Relationships” you might want to check them out, but here is a quick summary.

The fastest and quickest way you can assess personality is by what I call observing “feet angles” and best of all you can see it from across the room or down the hall when approaching her.

What are “feet angles”? Well this is a term I coined to refer to the angle between a person’s two feet.

Let us use the face of a clock for an example. Look at the big hand and the little hand. They both start at the same point in the center of the dial, but the tips of the big hand and little hand point to different places. The two lines formed by the big hand and the little hand create an angle. The angle between them is measured geometrically in degrees.

A circle has 360 degrees. So in the clock example every minute would be a change of 6 degrees. So if we use 12 noon or 12 o’clock. The two hands are parallel and there is no angle, or 0 degrees.

When it is 12:05 pm the hands create what is called a 30 degree angle. When it is 12:10 the two hands create a 60 degree angle. At 12:15 the two hands create a 90 degree angle and at 12:20 the two hands create a 120 degree angle.

Now the angles between human feet don’t get much wider than that, so for our purposes let’s stop the geometry lesson here.

Now here is the thing, “feet angles” correlate with personality at about an 80% to 90% consistency. That’s a high enough correlation to make some quick predictions when meeting people.

So first of all, observe and know your own “feet angle”.

For example, if you have straight feet (parallel with no angle) you definitely don’t want to get involved with anyone with a wide angel. Find someone with as straight feet as possible.

In general, know your own feet angles and find someone who is the same or only a few degrees different. Here is the Maxim you can apply:

MAXIM:1 – You should not get into a relationship with anyone who is more than 2-3 minutes on a clock face or 12- 24 degrees (geometrically) different than your own “angle between the feet”. People who are more than 2-3 minutes, or 12-24 degrees different from you are going to have personality types that are too different from you and more or less incompatible.

“Feet Angle” personality typing isn’t perfect. It will only be right 8 or 9 times out of 10. But that is pretty good for a quick, easy-to-apply rule.

Mr. L. Rx

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THREE WAYS TO TELL IF HE IS CHEATING

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THREE WAYS TO TELL IF HE IS CHEATING

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By Durk Dugan

: Is He Cheating?

(AN) What would you think if you found out your boyfriend or husband has had sex with hundreds of other women without your ever knowing?

Well according to one reformed player that is exactly what he has done, except multiply the above figure by ten and he claims to have played and cheated on thousands of women without getting caught.

His cover name is Mr. P. L. Ayer and the good news is he is reformed and now writing for the DatingToRelating.com web site to help women who are being played and cheated on.

What brought about his “change of heart”? Well, he is now the proud father of two girls and he doesn’t want men doing to his girls what he had done to thousands of women.

In his soon to be released book “BUSTED: How To Spot a Player and Cheater” he goes into detail on over thirty some odd ways for women to spot and catch a cheater in the act.

Here are three clues to tell if your boyfriend or husband may be a player or cheater:

Dropped out time – Lying will get you caught. And players and cheaters like anyone else know that. So one of their favorite cover ups is to tell you something true while omitting other events. That way they don’t have to remember lies. So a man who is an hour and a half late getting home, might tell you he was caught up in traffic – true – but he doesn’t tell you he stopped off at the massage parlor to get a quickie for 30 minutes.

Be smart. Make sure the time-lines always add up. You will catch him at this sooner or later.

Quick Showers – Players often are having sex with two or three women in a day. They will often try to cover their tracks by saying they need to take a quick shower when coming to visit you. Inexperienced players will do it occasionally when they need to get the scent of another women off of them. Experienced players will establish this technique right away as a cover whether they need to or not.

If you find your boyfriend or husband doing this, be on the alert.

Early to bed – another favorite ploy of “boyfriend” players and cheaters is the early to bed routine. This one is simple. They call you at 9 pm or so, yawn while chatting to you on the phone, then say they are tired and are going to bed. This gives them the rest of the night off to see another girl.

This one is easy, call him a little later, go over for a late night surprise and see if he is there.

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Why Do Bad Boys Attract Women?

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 3/2/09

Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx

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Question: Why is it the “nice guys” lose out and the “bad boys” attract women?

Answer: Well, we have all heard that myth, but I don’t think it is necessarily true. At least I don’t think it has anything to do with being a bad boy versus a nice guy.

I think there are other personality vectors involved that perhaps bad boys and nice guys have that are the defining qualities of attraction.

Bad boys tend to be less shy, but at the same time more confident in general than nice guys. I think that it would be these qualities that are attracting a woman not the fact that he is bad.

I personally have never used the “bad boy” approach, I am most always a perfect gentleman. However, I am not an easy catch and women can tell that immediately when talking to me. I am a little aloof, I don’t compliment women when I first meet them or tell them how beautiful they are, and most women don’t have a clue as to whether I am interested in them or just being nice.

That is what sets me apart from a “nice guy”. Women see me as a perfect gentleman but haven’t a clue if I like them or not. Women –especially very attractive women – like that. They are sick and tired of meeting men who fawn all over them.

Girls like guys who are interesting and unique. Attractive girls don’t find guys who tell them how beautiful they are to be unique. But a guy who has a pleasant conversation with them without mentioning a word about their beauty verbally or non-verbally – now that is both interesting and unique to a beautiful girl.

Also keep in mind that women have different personalities. And what is interesting and unique changes from personality to personality. A not-so-good-looking woman may find it totally interesting and unique to be told how pretty she is by a man. A woman who grows up in a society of perfect gentlemen, might very well find a guy who talks a little nasty and naughty to be interesting and unique. A woman who knows nothing but crude and ignorant men, would find a gentlemen to be a rare interesting and unique find.

You see no matter what you are like there is someone for you. But you have to define who that someone would be and then try to maximize how you would meet people like that. So no matter if you are a bad boy or a nice guy, put yourself in a position where you are interesting and unique to the women you meet and you will be successful.

Mr. L. Rx

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What To Say When You First Meet A Woman

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 2/23/09

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Question: What should a person say when they first meet? “Are you seeing someone?” I mean not everyone’s single. You may have a great conversion just to find out they’re seeing someone.

Answer: Personally, I never ask a woman about her relationship state. It shows a lack of confidence to do so. However, I read signals and flirt a little to see how they respond. Also just because someone is “seeing” someone doesn’t mean they are in a committed relationship and aren’t interested in meeting you.

Watch the signals that a women gives you in a conversation. Is she just being polite talking to you or is she really interested? If she is in a relationship she will probably talk to you but won’t attempt to create any future with you (see you again). She might be a little standoffish and get even more so when you attempt to flirt.

If a woman is really interested in you she will flirt back and give you little clues that she wants to see you again. She will suggest doing something or meeting or talking or getting together. She will make a point of how she really enjoyed talking to you, at which point, you could suggest that you talk again or some more and ask for her phone number.

If you are observant you can figure out very quickly if a woman is flirting with you or if she is just being polite. Now if she is interested in you, and you show confidence enough to not ask if she is seeing someone, you will usually score a few points with her.

Question: How do you get and keep a girl interested in you when you think you are boring?

Answer: One of the hardest things to learn in life is that no matter what you are like there is always someone who is perfectly compatible with you. Even if you are boring there are women who are perfectly compatible with that. Not every one wants to meet and hook up with the life of the party.

The problem is people who don’t accept themselves for who they are, try to act differently and they are not being real, so they don’t attract anyone. Now if you just accept yourself for who you are and act the way you really are, you will find that there are people who will accept you for who you are. So don’t worry about whether you are boring or not, just be yourself. Sooner or later you will find a girl who will accept you for who you are.

Mr. L. Rx

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How To Start A Conversation With A Girl

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 2/9/09

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Question: What do you talk about when there is nothing to talk about. How do you spark conversation with ANY girl.

Answer: Good question. The best way to spark a conversation is to ask questions.

What do you ask questions about?

Well, I always just ask questions about anything I want to know. It varies from person to person. But typically if I am meeting someone new I might ask questions like “Do you have brothers and sisters?” “Do you get along with your parents?” “Do you have a lot of friends?”

Usually a person talks for a while when answering and that gives you more data to ask more questions about. Sometimes I will make a comment if it is appropriate or if they ask me a question in response to my question I just answer their question then ask them another one of my questions.

The hard times are when people just give you “yes” and “no” type answers. That doesn’t leave much to work off of.

When I feel the situation is awkward or the person isn’t talking much (like the above “yes” and “no” answers, then I talk about how awkward the situation is. Say something like “This is embarrassing. I feel so awkward. I don’t know what to say. Do you feel awkward too?”

Usually you can get a little conversation going on that topic and relieve a lot of tension just by admitting that you feel awkward and don’t know what to say. Then move into a question like “Ok, let’s see what we can talk about. What are your interests? Do you have any hobbies?”

Another questioning technique is to pay attention to what a person puts their attention on and talk about or ask questions about that. So, for example, if you are in a restaurant and the person you are dating isn’t talking much, just reading the menu, you might say “Kind of an interesting menu. What looks good to you?” That might spark a conversation about food or restaurants and menus, etc.

This technique is also good for meeting strangers. If you are in a grocery store next to some one attractive who is looking at “lamb chops” you might say: “I see you are interested in the lamb chops. Do you know a good way to cook them, I’ve always wanted to try them, but really don’t know how to cook them.”

Remember also that you are not necessarily going to get along with everyone you meet. So if you try, try, and try to get a decent conversation going and it doesn’t happen then this is probably not the best person for you.

Mr. L. Rx

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Why Do Girls Flirt?

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 2/2/09

Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx

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Question: Why do girls flirt with you and when you flirt back they push it away. It’s so confusing!!!

Answer: First of all, women have different personalities. What you are describing is a type of personality not all women in general. The personality type that usually does this kind of behavior is a little insecure. They are testing the water, but they don’t really want to jump in.

The best way to handle this personality type when you see it is not to react, not to take the bait so to speak. Let the girl flirt all she wants, let her take the lead. Let her control how the relationship goes. If you don’t react, she will get comfortable with you and steepen the gradient over time. If you react (flirt back) she will usually run away.

Problem is, however, people with similar or compatible personalities tend to hang out together. So sometimes you can get the impression that the whole world is one way, when in fact it may be only a certain percentage of people who are like that. So if you tend to think ALL women are one way. Change your environment, go somewhere different. Meet different people in different situations and perhaps you will discover different personality types and perhaps one that is more compatible with you.

Now having said that, let’s look at it from a different angle. Women in general like flirting for flirting’s sake more than men do. Men will flirt because they are interested in a woman. Women will flirt to see if they get a reaction, to see if they are looking good and are desirable, even when they are not interested in a man. They will flirt with a guy they are only interested in being friends with.

One way to get better control of these situations is to look at all the communication channels that a woman is using to communicate – Like verbal, emotional, physical, mental, and sexual communications.

When a women likes you she is likely to communicate that she likes you across all of the communications channels. When she is just playing around she will give you conflicting communications. So when you see a woman flirting with you, but she does not back up the flirting by showing you she likes you across ALL the communication channels – don’t take the flirtation seriously.

Mr. L. Rx

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Six Mistakes Guys Make On A First Date

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 1/26/09

Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx

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Question: “What is the biggest mistake guys make on the first date that prevents ever having a second date or developing a sexual relationship (rather than a friendship)?”

Answer: Well, there are several mistakes a guy can make. Let me summarize the most common ones here. The biggest mistakes guys make on first dates are:

1) Talking about themselves too much. Trying to be interesting instead of interested.

2) Not asking questions and not listening enough.

3) Focusing too much on sex– either overtly or by innuendo.

4) Not using subtleties enough (What a woman understands)

5) Not developing sexual flow or interest.

6) Not creating future. (A relationship is all about future.)

The first mistake that most guys make is that they go on the first date and talk all about themselves, sort of strut around telling the girl that he’s got this car, and he’s got this job and he talks and talks and talks bragging about this and that trying to impress the girl that he is a good catch.

What a girl sees is a self-centered ego maniac that isn’t going to be able to take care of her at all, because he is not interested in her and doesn’t listen to what she has to say. Not a good relationship prospect.

Another way of saying it is that guys try to be interesting. They figure they have to be interesting for a girl to be interested in them. Sorry guys, but it doesn’t work that way. You have to be interested in the girl, not interesting to get her attention. Did you ever see two interesting people on a date. It is hilarious! They are both so busy trying to be interesting to the other that neither has time to be interested in the other.

If you don’t know what I am talking about, think what makes you feel better. A girl who is interested in you? Or a girl who is telling you how cool she is, how hot she is, etc. and all kinds of other interesting things.

Interesting leads to a lot of rejection and “platonic” friendships by the way. Girls will be friends with a guy who is really interesting. Why? Girls like to be amused and entertained. Interesting men are sort of like children to them. A source of non-sexual amusement and pleasure.

That is all we have room to talk about here, but you can get more data on the other five mistakes at:http://datingtorelating.com/products.

Mr. L. Rx

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How To Get Physical With A Girl

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN – 1/19/09

Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx

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Answer: Getting physical is something that usually occurs naturally between a man and a woman over a three month period unless one or both of them is extremely uncomfortable on disinterested.

When a man is uncomfortable with approaching a woman for a physical relationship, the main thing that a man can do to handle that is learn how to observe and use gradients.

What are gradients? Gradients are like steps on a ladder that you climb to get to the top. Some guys may try to go to the top of the ladder without climbing any of the steps. And that makes the girl uncomfortable as well as the guy.

A guy who is uncomfortable in this area should learn both how to recognize gradients when women use them and how to use gradients on women.

Not every woman will start at the same gradient. Some women will start with a kiss after a first date, and move up gradually or rapidly from there – from kissing, to making out, to petting, to heavy petting and finally to intercourse. If a man tries to jump to the “intercourse” stage without going through the other gradients, he might just lose the girl. Conversely, you can lose a girl because youare moving up the gradients too slowly.

Now other women won’t even be up to the gradient of giving you a goodnight kiss until the seventh date. Gradients for her might be: getting to know you, talking about sexual topics indirectly (for example commiserating about an ex-boyfriend), accidental touch (bumping into you as you walk), purposeful little touches to your arm or leg, holding onto your arm as you walk, holding your hand, and then a goodnight kiss.

If you are uncomfortable with this area and want to get physical with a girl, flirt with her, romance her, observe where she is on the gradients of sexual contact, then lead her up the gradients gently. As long as you don’t skip too many gradients, if she is interested, she will move up the gradients quickly or slowly depending on her personality.

If she is not interested, she probably won’t budge. Try lowering the gradient and if she still doesn’t budge. Try talking about it. Ask her if she is interested in a relationship with you or if she only wants to be friends.

Also remember that most women won’t go out on a “date” with you unless they are already vaguely ok with the concept of getting physical with you. So you might want to clarify if you are dating or just “hanging out.”

Mr. L. Rx

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How To Approach Women

DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 1/12/09

Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx

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Question: I’m good looking and not lacking in any area. For some reason I’ve just always had a very hard time confronting girls… if I’m lucky enough to get the chance to talk to a very attractive girl I usually chicken out and regret it later.

Answer: Well, I understand your question very well. As a young man, I was in exactly the same position. There is no “magic pill” that will change things overnight. There are a lot of things that you may have to do to change your situation.

I have sent you a complimentary copy of “Dating To Relating – From A to Z” as this is the most complete education that you can get to address your problem.

In the meantime there are two things that you and guys like you can do to raise your confront.

Whenever you feel uncomfortable in any situation, it means that you are approaching this situation on too high a gradient. Rather than run away from the situation. Lower the gradient.

What are gradients? Gradients are like steps on a ladder. If you try to go to the top of the ladder on your first step, it will be impossible and you will fail. If you keep trying it over and over you will start building up a “complex” about failing, and soon not try anymore.

If you try to jump up five or six steps on your first try, it will also be scary – not necessarily impossible but scary. Probability is that if you have no experiences jumping that high you will fail too.

The right approach is to take the first step and then advance one-step at a time. It is the most comfortable way to climb a ladder.

When I was a young man I would see a woman I was attracted to and thought I had to tell her how much I liked her straight away. Well that was jumping up too many steps on the ladder. I didn’t even know her.

The first step is a simple “Hi” and a smile. Then keep walking. Get comfortable just saying “Hi” to girls. Then as the next step when they say “Hi” back or ask you a question, answer the question, or make a comment about something that she has her attention on to continue the conversation. For example, if you are in a bookstore and she is looking at a book on cooking, ask her what she thinks of that book. Is it any good?

Conversations develop naturally. Do not push it. Get to know her before you decide that you like her.

Of course, there is a whole lot more to it, but these are good basics to start with.

Mr. L. Rx

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By admin – July 10, 2011

How To Use Rapport When Meeting Women

Here is a question I got the other day about how to use rapport.

Question: Mr. L. Rx, what is rapport and how do I use it when meeting women?

Answer: Rapport!

Well, our trusted Wikipedia says:

“Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being “in sync” with, or being “on the same wavelength” as the person with whom you are talking.”

Why should you establish rapport when meeting women for the first time? Well it is just one more of those things you can do to create attraction. Rapport works more on the subconscious level, whereas some of the other things I have taught you – like listen to the woman – work on a more conscious level.

How do you establish rapport?

Well, there are three ways that I go about establishing rapport with a person whether in a sales situation, a social situation, or on a date.

1) Body Language

To establish rapport I mimic the person’s body language. If they sit up straight, I sit up straight. If they lean back, I lean back. If they lean in, I lean in.

Posture is one, but there are others. If they are uptight and cold and distant, I am uptight and cold and distant. If they start warming up, I start warming up. If they talk with their hands, I talk with my hands. Get it! Don’t be too obvious. This is subtle. It drives in the “commonality of perspective” or the “in sync”.

2) Vocal Language

If someone starts off talking about casual conversation, I start and continue the conversation at the same level. If they start off getting very personal and open, I become very personal and open with my conversation. I also use a similar style of talking if possible – soft and polite, if they are soft and polite, loud and boisterous, if they are loud and boisterous.

3) Emotional Mimicking

If someone is cheerful and friendly, I am cheerful and friendly, if they are angry and sullen, I become angry and sullen. If they are antagonistic and bothered, I become antagonistic and bothered. If they are fearful or grief ridden, I become fearful or grief ridden.

4) OtherMimicry

You can take mimicking a little further. For example, if they order a salad, I will order a salad. If they order an “Arnold Palmer” I will order an “Arnold Palmer”. Be careful in this one, however, don’t be too obvious. Keep it more general, for example, they order a salad and rather than ordering the same salad just say “I want something light too” then choose something light. Or if they order that “Arnold Palmer” you might order something non-alcoholic like ice tea.

Now using rapport is my tendency, but I only do these things when I want to use rapport. Sometimes I don’t use rapport. Some people are attracted to “similarity” (that is when rapport works) others are attracted to opposites (that is when rapport can back fire on you).

How do you know when or when not to use rapport?

Well, I observe the attraction factor. When I meet people, I am at first just me – my natural self. If that works then I don’t change a thing. I just be “me”. Now sometimes “me” will naturally be in rapport with the person I am with, other times it doesn’t matter as attraction is there anyway.

But when the attraction factor is low, or the personality in front of me is not very similar to my personality, I first make a decision. I ask myself if I want to get to know this person better (because if I don’t like them – no use wasting any time on rapport). If I do, I will use rapport and the attraction factor starts going in.

Rapport is one of those things that seems to work for me when all else fails. Once I establish rapport I say the same things and do the same things I would normally say and do. I just say them in a way that is consistent with the rapport I have established.

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What To Say When You First Meet A Woman

How To Start A Conversation With A Girl

Why Do Girls Flirt?

Six Mistakes Guys Make On A First Date

How To Get Physical With A Girl

How To Approach Women

How To Use Rapport When Meeting Women

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