DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 9/20/10
Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx
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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of the popular book “Dating To Relating – From A To Z”. Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com and it may be selected for answer in this column. (Sorry all questions cannot be answered.)
Question: Mr. L. Rx, so many women are looking for the so called Mr. Right. How do I become that guy?
Answer: Well, if you were to go online and search for “Mr. Right” articles written by women, the first thing you would notice is that what is “Mr. Right” for one woman could be “Mr. Wrong” for another.
It comes back to one of my basic themes. Women have different personalities. Different personalities like different things.
So if you like yourself, and who you are and can’t see yourself changing for anyone then just be who you are. Meet lots of women, and sooner or later you will meet someone who likes you the way you are and will consider you their Mr. Right.
Now if you are flawed and know you are flawed, and you want to improve yourself, then decide what kind of guy you would like to be. Decide what kind of guy you could admire and become such a guy. If you are cool with who you become, then meet lots of women and sooner or later you will meet a woman who thinks you are cool too.
Or there is a different way of going about it. The strategy above may attract women but it may not attract the kind of woman you are looking for. So if you want to do that, figure out first what kind of woman you are looking for and figure out what kind of guy she is looking for or her type is looking for and become that guy.
Just make sure you are comfortable with the kind of guy you become or it won’t last very long. This has to be a lifestyle change for the rest of your life.
The final approach is to become the kind of guy that most or the majority of women are looking for. What is that?
a) A guy who is clean and well groomed. No matter what you look like, you will look better if you take pride in your appearance, hygiene, and personal grooming. A well groomed man is something a woman can be proud of and show off no matter what he looks like.
b) A guy who is trustworthy and won’t cheat. Guys are notorious for cheating. Don’t be that guy. If you no longer feel it for a girl, end the relationship then find someone new for sex – not vice versa.
c) A guy who is competent at something and can build a successful career. You don’t have to be a brain surgeon to be successful. Women want financial security. If you are good at your job – no matter what it is – you won’t lose it. You will be promoted, etc. Financial security – not gobs of money – is what women want from Mr. Right.
d) A guy who is reliable and whose word means something. Don’t be the guy who shows up an hour late and who forgets birthdays and promises. No one likes that – not even other men.
e) A gentleman. Despite what women might say, they all appreciate a gentleman. Don’t fake it. It is a lifestyle. Either assume the lifestyle of a gentleman or don’t do it at all. Anything in between won’t work, because if you force yourself to do it, it will backfire on you one day.
f) A communicator. Learn to have real communication and learn to listen to women early on. If you don’t like what you hear or it is torture to listen, break it off. She is the wrong girl for you. There is another woman out there whose communication will be enjoyable. Find her.
g) A romantic. Romance is different for every woman so find out what it is for her. Don’t be the kind of guy who romances her to get her then stops when he gets her. Romance is another lifestyle. If you can’t or don’t want to do it then don’t do it. It is another one of those areas that you either do forever, or don’t do it at all. If you don’t want to be a romantic, find a woman who doesn’t need it.
h) A guy with a sense of humor. All women say they want a guy with a sense of humor. But don’t use it as a way to get out of real communication. Be humorous and funny when appropriate but know when and how to have a serious conversation.
i) Finally be a good lover. If you don’t know how. Learn. There are lots of books on the subject, and we have free materials on our website if you can’t find them other places. Every woman’s Mr. Right is a good lover.
Mr. L. Rx
