DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 5/25/09
Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx
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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of the popular book “Dating To Relating – From A To Z”. Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com and it may be selected for answer in this column. (Sorry all questions cannot be answered.)
Question: Mr. L. Rx, I’ ve tried just saying, “Hi” and being very neutral to a girl when I meet her, but for some reason they all seem to run away as fast as they can. I am not an ugly guy. What could it be?
Answer: Perhaps you are “telegraphing” your intentions. I know guys who can say a nice polite “Hi” but their intentions are written all over their face. Girls can read them right away and run away because they know the guys just want sex.
Try watching yourself in the mirror or ask some buddies what kinds of facial expressions or non-verbal behavior are you giving off.
Question: What do girls do to let you know they are interested when you engage them in some conversation?
Answer: Well, different personalities do different things. The most common response when a girl is interested is to keep the conversation going. No matter what you say or do, if she is interested she will respond to you and try to keep the conversation going in one way or the other. Of course you have to do your part.
If you ask a girl, “What time is it?” and she responds, “Three o’clock” you might have to come back with something to keep the conversation going like,“Nice watch, where did you get that?”
She might then respond at length telling you all about how she got the watch “to show you she is interested” or she might just say “at a store” and politely walk away, to show you she is not interested.
Remember she expects you to do your part, and if you don’t keep the conversation going when it is your turn to respond, she might think that you are not interested and give up.
Now, that is the average girl. Some people are not average and not normal. These are the ones that may do all sort of crazy things to show you they are interested – like ignore you, walk away, insult you, etc.
But unless you are a crazy guy who really wants to meet an equally crazy girl, I would just ignore the crazy communications and look for the women who respond. The ones who try to keep the conversation going when you approach them or engage them in a conversation are the easiest ones to understand.
If you want to understand the complexities of these kinds of situations across personality types then I suggest you get a copy of Dating To Relating – From A To Z.
Mr. L. Rx
