DATING TO RELATING FOR MEN – WEEKLY COLUMN– 4/13/09
Dating To Relating For Men- Advice By Mr. L. Rx
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Mr. L. Rx is the author of the popular DatingToRelating.com website and the author of the popular book “Dating To Relating – From A To Z”. Have a question? Send it to Column@DatingToRelating.com and it may be selected for answer in this column. (Sorry all questions cannot be answered.)
Question: Mr. L. Rx, I am confused about foreplay. My girlfriend always says she needs more foreplay. What exactly is it?
Answer: A lot of guys think that foreplay is having to kiss your girlfriend or wife before she lets you have intercourse. Well a lot of guys think they are great lovers, but a lot of women have other thoughts about that…. I have different thoughts about foreplay.
Foreplay, what is that? Good question.
Foreplay is whatever creates a little sex flow between your girl and you and holds it there in place so she and you can think about it and enjoy the build up and anticipation of what is eventually to come.
Another way of saying it is that foreplay is what “gets you and/or your partner ready” for the sex act. Since guys are just about biologically ready for the sex act “all the time.” Guys seem to forget the value of foreplay, after all, it is something they have to do for someone else — not themselves.
Bad way of looking at it. Why? Foreplay is not just for established couples already having sex. Foreplay is what prepares a woman to have sex with you. Hence, any woman you would like to have sex with that you are NOT having sex with would require foreplay.
So, foreplay has a role in meeting women, attracting women, picking up women, dating women, having a relationship with women, and making love to women.
The best kind of foreplay is Romance….you know, shopping with your girl in the mall, holding hands as you walk, having a sexy conversation and flirtation at lunch. Little kisses and touches throughout the day. Getting so turned on that you both can’t wait to go home in the evening.
Foreplay can go on for hours and hours and hours.
When you are in the bedroom, foreplay is kissing and kissing and kissing, touching, touching and touching. It can be role playing, talking about your fantasies, taking a bath or shower together, feeding each other, or watching sexy movies – or whatever other little sexy games you are into.
But remember foreplay is not limited to the bedroom. Use romance as foreplay throughout the week, days, and hours leading up to the bedroom. Women like to talk, and talking (and you listening) can be a very sexy foreplay for a woman.
Mr. L. Rx
